More lifestyle self-tutoring: the tutor shares some reflections about his new favourite phobia, and his own possible ensnarement therein.
To some degree, I assume, we all face anxiety. Some people truly don’t seem to, but perhaps that’s just poise. I freely admit that I do get anxious sometimes, for no reason at all.
Agoraphobia I’ve heard of, but only today did I finally look up its meaning:
agoraphobia: tendency to avoid particular settings for fear of trouble or embarrassment that may happen there. The trouble typically means social difficulty, such as being trapped in a line-up.
I find it hard to imagine someone who doesn’t try to avoid situations of trouble or embarrassment.
I’ve got a bad case of agoraphobia. My family particularly notice it; here are some of my symptoms:
- I typically avoid travelling because I don’t like long waits, line-ups, being stuck in a plane for 6-10hrs, etc.
- I avoid parking in crowded lots, choosing instead to park further away where there’s more room. (This tendency my family really notice. My wife and younger son think it’s lame.)
- I try to avoid grocery shopping at peak times. (I went up one time during lunch break – I learned my lesson.)
In a given situation, agoraphobia can self-generate. Suppose, for instance, you go to a store at peak time. Naturally, you get trapped in a line-up. If you’re like me, now you feel embarrassed, standing there in line, because I should have known better than to shop at that time. If I’d been just a little more agoraphobic, I would have thought twice and planned the shopping better, so it happened outside a busy period.
In a way, it’s embarrassing to talk about this, but it’s also liberating. I’m just glad it’s out in the open:)
Jack of Oracle Tutoring by Jack and Diane, Campbell River, BC.