{"id":38206,"date":"2019-09-25T18:28:51","date_gmt":"2019-09-25T18:28:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/?p=38206"},"modified":"2019-09-25T18:28:58","modified_gmt":"2019-09-25T18:28:58","slug":"lifestyle-communication-part-0","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/lifestyle-communication-part-0\/","title":{"rendered":"Lifestyle: communication, part 0"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2>Self-tutoring about the &#8220;less is more&#8221; communication style.<\/h2>\n<p>\n(Many?) years ago I saw a real estate show about people who couldn&#8217;t sell their houses. It was set in Britain and may have been &#8220;The Unsellables.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p>\nThe way the show worked was that its own consultants would arrive to help the owner sell a home that had been on the market some time. They would talk to the realtor about why the home wouldn&#8217;t sell.\n<\/p>\n<p>\nThat particular evening, I was tired and preoccupied, so didn&#8217;t intend to pay attention to the show; my wife was watching it. Yet, I got drawn in during the conversation with the realtor, and here&#8217;s why:\n<\/p><p>\n\nWhen asked why he thought the home wasn&#8217;t selling, the realtor pointed out some reasons. They were specific and sounded likely to be correct. Moreover, they were fixable.\n<\/p>\nThe consultants followed up with the obvious question: &#8220;Have you told the clients about these impediments to a potential sale?&#8221;\n<\/p><p>\n&#8220;No,&#8221; the realtor replied. &#8220;We haven&#8217;t had that specific conversation.&#8221;\n<\/p><p>\nI almost fell off the couch with laughter. Recalling it now, I&#8217;m laughing again.\n<\/p><p>\nLet&#8217;s understand this particular premise:\n<ol><li>The owners want to sell the home. We know so, because they&#8217;ve engaged a realtor.<\/li>\n<li>The realtor wants to sell the home to earn a commission.<\/li>\n<li>The realtor, who seems quite experienced, apparently knows why the home isn&#8217;t selling.<\/li>\n<li>The realtor hasn&#8217;t told the owners why their home won&#8217;t sell. The reasons relate to decor, so would be relatively straightforward to fix.<\/li>\n<li>Because they are unaware of why their home isn&#8217;t selling, the owners can&#8217;t fix the problems in order to make it sellable.<\/li>\n<li>The owners&#8217; distress grows (we assume) while the realtor waits for a commission which he seems comfortable knowing won&#8217;t come.<\/li>\n<\/ol><\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;Why doesn&#8217;t the realtor tell his clients why their home isn&#8217;t selling so they can fix those problems?&#8221; I asked myself. I was naive then, of course.\n<\/p>\n<p>Naive, yet teachable. Today, I believe I know why the realtor hadn&#8217;t told the homeowners why their home wasn&#8217;t selling: he assumed they didn&#8217;t want to hear it. I suppose he used the following logic:\n<ol>\n<li>If I tell them that perspective buyers don&#8217;t like the color of the trim, they&#8217;ll get mad at me.<\/li>\n<li>I&#8217;ll be fired because I offended them by telling them the truth.<\/li>\n<li>I&#8217;m best off to just hope the home will eventually sell to someone willing to change the trim themselves.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\nThe realtor likely wasn&#8217;t naive, while I was.\n<\/p>\n<p>\nI&#8217;ll be following up: there&#8217;s more road here:)\n<\/p>\n<p>Source:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.co.uk\/programmes\/b00kl1jl\">bbc.co.uk<\/a><\/p>\nJack of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\">Oracle Tutoring by Jack and Diane,<\/a> Campbell River, BC.\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Self-tutoring about the &#8220;less is more&#8221; communication style. (Many?) years ago I saw a real estate show about people who couldn&#8217;t sell their houses. It was set in Britain and may have been &#8220;The Unsellables.&#8221; The way the show worked &hellip;<\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more\"> <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/lifestyle-communication-part-0\/\"> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Lifestyle: communication, part 0<\/span> Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2973],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-38206","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38206","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=38206"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38206\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":38216,"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38206\/revisions\/38216"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=38206"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=38206"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.oracletutoring.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=38206"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}