\nSometime back in the 90s, every time someone said something someone else didn’t want to hear, it came to be called “yelling.” I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard someone say someone was “yelling” at them when actually the person was talking at normal volume.<\/p>\n
\nPeople realized, therefore, that when they have a complaint, saying so is counterproductive. Instead, it’s better not to say anything, but quietly edit the source of the problem from the situation.<\/p>\n
\n“Passive” is one reason passive aggression has such purchase in our society: people believe that “passive” means “blameless.” It’s the idea that “If they don’t do anything at all, they can’t be doing anything wrong.” While passive aggression isn’t a particularly flattering look on most people, many have found it their only way to counter indifference and\/or disrespect.<\/p>\n
The motivation towards passive aggression is the same as that for rearranging deck furniture on a sinking ship:)<\/p>\nJack of Oracle Tutoring by Jack and Diane,<\/a> Campbell River, BC.\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Self-tutoring about social interactions: the tutor begins about passive aggression. Sometime back in the 90s, every time someone said something someone else didn’t want to hear, it came to be called “yelling.” I can’t count the number of times I’ve …<\/p>\n